I was going to just post this quickly on the NKU Facebook page, but my commentary was becoming rather lengthy.
A few days ago Todd found the book “The Power of a Praying Husband” on our bookshelf. I purchased it years ago after I had finished “The Power of a Praying Wife” as I figured since I loved it and it really helped me understand my new spouse, that this one may do the same for him. Except he wasn’t a reader and the book just sat on the shelf through multiple moves.
Since I’m a book hoarder, I never got rid of it. And when he was looking for a book to read, this one stood out.
He never once mentioned anything written in it until last night, chapter five. Her Moods.
“A woman can be emotionally sensitive in the days before, during, and after her monthly cycle.”
Uh yea. If this were true, then we’d be talking about a month-long hormonal period. And then *nothing* would happen for a while before another month-long period. The monthly cycle is a month long and a woman’s cycle is not based solely around her period.
“That leaves about three days in the middle when she is normal, and one of those days she’s ovulating, so it’s up for grabs how she’s going to be that day. So I figure a guy has two good days when it’s safe.”
I’m seriously just speechless. And yet, this is very much the culture surrounding a woman, her cycle, and her mood. Why do “we” as a culture feel that women are constantly unstable and not in control of emotions?
Because the fact of the matter is that there are only a few days, maybe just before and as menstruating begins, that emotions run high. The rest of the entire cycle women should be on a rather even keel.
And during ovulation?! That’s usually when her mood is the best. Otherwise no couple would ever conceive.
My question to you is what has caused this thinking in men? (and some women who use their change in hormones to excuse bad behavior)
One of my thoughts goes back to how we as women view our cycle.
So often in our modern way of life, we fight against every aspect of our cycle. We push ourselves to be extroverts and “doers” when our hormones are pulling us in, to be quiet and more introverted. I also find that most women don’t truly understand their cycle or where they’re at hormonally.
I know there were many years when I didn’t.
The truth is, I was actually more like *that* woman in the first few years of my marriage. I had no idea what the effect of estrogen was on my moods, likewise for progesterone. I hated feeling all over the place and fought with my inner pull daily. I also suppressed my hormone production with birth control pills, which made matters worse by the month. I didn’t know why some days I felt like I could rule the world, and other days I wanted to just stay in bed.
I also went back and forth from eating horribly to following the USDA dietary guidelines. My hormones were a mess! I was all over the place some days, getting through them without punching a hole in the wall only by the grace of God. I am so glad I’m not her anymore!
As women, we need to learn how our bodies work, and for that you’ll have to do a bit more learning past 5th grade science when we first learn about the birds and the bees.
My hope is that as our generation ages, we can teach ourselves, as well as the young girls of tomorrow, how to pay attention to the signals that come from within as well as learn how to nourish our bodies for proper hormone balance. Because this cultural thought surrounding women and our natural cycle needs to change.