Yesterday I had the pleasure of heading over to a friends house and spending some time chatting with her. After spending the day with her I also got to see 2 of my sisters on my way home and we spent an hour laughing and joking, and just being sisters. Getting out of the house and away from my own stresses really boosted my mood and I enjoyed myself immensely. At the end of the day I realized it’s what I had needed.
Life tends to be overwhelming at times no matter what season of life you are in. And it reminded me how stressful infertility can be. Very stressful in fact. Days can be filled with checking and charting and worry and overall obsession. Plus the fact that we tend to talk about it with our husbands constantly and maybe some friends that are going through the same thing. Or if we don’t have friends, there is a huge online network of infertility groups and forums where you can also worry about what other people are going through. All of this built up worry and over thinking can really bog down not only your life, but who you really are.
So, before it gets to that point, you need to take a day off. And if you are already to that point, you really need to take a day off! Nothing can refresh you more than taking a day and doing something you love. Go out with a friend to dinner, take your husband bowling, walk along the beach (oh, how I miss summer!) or just head to a friends house for a day of chatting. And just a little tip – talking about the past always brings more fun! Who doesn’t love to laugh at all the things you did when you were a kid? Maybe have a night at the parents house and watch old home movies!
Being absent from infertility for a day can boost your mood and really give you a rejuvenated spirit.
Most importantly of all, if you are really struggling (anger, jealousy, contempt), spend a day with the Lord. Go outside or to a quiet place in your home and spend time reading the bible and praying. Let him know how you feel, cry out your struggles, even tell him how much you hate what you’ve been going through. (believe me, He already knows your heart and any anger inside, so it’s really no surprise to Him) If you allow yourself to really let go of the feelings you harbor, you’ll be amazed at what a new person you really become. Plus, when it all comes down to it, we actually have no control over our fertility. He does. And if you feel like there is a hole in your life, that something is missing, he is the only one that will ever truly fill it.