Your body and heart have special needs during and after a miscarriage. I’ve asked my dear friend Michele, of Frugal Granola to share a 3 part series with on us on the healing after miscarriage – physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Dear one, if you are experiencing that sinking feeling in your soul right now, when you realize a miscarriage has begun, I want to send you my deepest condolences.
As you walk through this season ahead, and grieve the loss of your precious blessing, here are a few tips:
Don’t chuck that pregnancy book out the window, yet.
Depending on how far along you are in your pregnancy, your miscarriage experience may be very much like labor. Review the chapters on relaxation techniques, comfort measure solutions, etc., just in case you need them to get through waves of contractions over the next few days. (Yes, days.)
Check with your doctor/midwife.
Make sure they know about your miscarriage signs, and keep you and your husband advised of any emergency signs that require a trip to the hospital (such as a fever or other signs of infection, sharp pains, excessive blood loss, loss of consciousness, etc).
As long as everything is progressing normally, you can have a natural miscarriage in the peaceful privacy of your home. (Your healthcare provider may offer to visit you and/or provide support over the phone.) Make sure to have your husband or a support person with you just in case. Schedule a follow-up appointment.
Stock up on lots of pads. Quickly.
Even if you don’t usually use pads during a period, you’ll need them during a miscarriage, as you pass the baby/tissue, and lots of blood loss. Keep enough on hand to last you a couple weeks.
Relax & Release.
An important part of giving birth naturally is the “letting go” experience, and the same is true for miscarriage, as emotionally difficult as this is. As you relax and release, you allow your cervix to fully open up, and for the contractions to become effective. A warm shower, heat packs, or sitting on the toilet can help, along with a restful atmosphere of quiet music, candles, etc; just like in labor.
Physical healing always seems to happen faster than the emotional healing. (We’ll touch on the emotional aspect in the next segment of this series.) In your grief, you may not have much of an appetite, but it is important to nourish your body during this recovery time.
As you rebuild after the blood loss, the nutrient demands of a pregnancy, and now the needs of healing, make sure to prepare whole-foods meals full of iron, healing vitamins such as K & C, good fats, etc.
A midwife/herbalist may recommend an herbal tincture for you, such as crampbark or false unicorn. Check with your natural healthcare provider for the appropriate dosage for your needs. You may also find that drinking wild red raspberry leaf tea helpful, especially as you heal enough to begin preparing for another pregnancy.
Even if you feel capable of continuing your daily duties, you need time to fully heal. You don’t want to cause unnecessary damage/blood loss from “over-doing it” as your uterus recovers. A couple weeks of rest will also allow you the space to begin grieving and emotionally walking through this season in a healthy way; especially as you may experience both a combination of grief and “postpartum blues” of hormonal fluctuations.
If you have experienced the loss of miscarriage, what most helped you during this season?
Michele and her husband Calvin live a simple & sustainable life as innkeepers at Hampton Creek Inn in rural Washington with their two little ones. Michele loves encouraging women and equipping them for frugal, natural living through her blog, Frugal Granola.
You can also read about Donielle’s experience with her miscarriage here: